As One Door Closes

Sometimes in life, though we may not always like it, things come to an end.  Now I'm not talking about the end of a favorite TV or movie series, or the end of a really intense game of ping pong.  I am talking about serious life situations.  Things like opportunities, jobs and even relationships; and although it may seem unbearable at the time, life has a way of working it out.

It comes down to that old saying "As one door closes, another always opens."

But what happens when your doors overlap?

What happens when one of the doors is defective, broken, refuses to shut and stay so, but a door you had hoped and wish would open does?

Scenario:

You are with a woman for several years and you have known for some time that the relationship was no longer fulfilling for you.  You have tried many times to get her to leave, and have tried to leave yourself, but because of your past together, and her on going feelings for you, you always end up being there when she is down.  She doesn't want to let go, and you don't want her to be hurt when she is.

BUT

You met a girl who was all of the things you had imagined your perfect mate to be.  She is funny, witty, intelligent, hard working and beautiful in every way you had imagined her to be.  You almost want there to be something wrong with her so that you don't feel so out of place around her.  You wait for months, not saying a word about your interest in her because of the woman that won't let go.  But one day she asks you out for drinks.  What do you do?

The doors have over lapped.

You, of course don't want the drama from the old relationship to taint the possibilities of a new one.
You want to jump on the opportunity to see the new woman.
You are in romantic limbo.

Naturally, you are torn by the precarious situation in which you are finding yourself.  However, there is only one answer.

Though it may not be the easy decision, you must let the first girl go.  By staying with her when your heart is not committed, you would be hurting her far more.  DON'T BE THE CHEATER! (speaking from experience, they never come out on top.)  Find a way to sever the cord and start living your life in a way that is true to both of you.  Sounds simple right?  Just hope you never have to try it.

When life opens a door for you, there is a reason greater than you know at the time. 


"Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."
Joseph Campbell